Wednesday, 29 February 2012

Being present . . .




"Do not delay; the golden moments fly!"
~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

We were watching an episode of The Golden Girls last night via DVD. It began with them cleaning up after a party. Sophia (Dorothy's mother) was picking away at all the food which was leftover on the tables. She had prepared it all, and it had been a wonderful repast. Everyone was going on about just how delicious it had all been as they cleaned up and about how much work she had put into all the preparations. Soon Sophia was sitting down and complaining of having a bubble in her chest that wouldn't budge. Next thing you know, the girls were all thinking she was having a heart attack and she was made to lie down while they waited for the Paramedics and Doctor to arrive. Sophia lay there, thinking she was going to die and all the things she hadn't said to her daughter that she wanted to say, and she said them . . . and the other's were nostalgic as well . . . it was very touching. Turned out at the end though, that all Sophia had was . . . indigestion.

It got me to thinking though . . . last autumn, when I thought I might have cancer, I thought about all the things I still wanted to do . . . the words I still wanted to say . . . the places I wanted to go . . . the hearts I wanted to heal. I started a journal, where I began to write my life story in it . . . to leave for my children, so to speak. I sat down and wrote letters to all of my children, with special messages in them, just for them and tucked them away for the right time . . . I did a whole host of other things. It took the threat of leaving, of me losing all that I held so precious . . . for me to sit down and communicate all the things that I wanted to say . . . to think about the things I still wanted to do, etc.



"Life lived for tomorrow will always be just a day away from being realized."
~Leo Buscaglia

It shouldn't be that way really. We should say and do and experience all that we want to do, say and experience right in the here and the now. We should not need the threat of our impending doom to bring it about . . . or the threat of loss. None of us knows for sure when our lives will end. Some will have a pretty good idea if they contract a terminal illness, but others will pass on suddenly, with no warning . . . and if they haven't done so already . . . leaving their songs unsung . . .



When I thought that I might not have a lot of time left on this earth, everything became so much sweeter, as if that were possible. I am a person that tries to find all the joy in most things anyways . . . but I can remember just standing in the front garden and closing my eyes one day . . . and smelling the sweetness in the air, feeling the wind brush across my cheeks and drinking it all in. The thought of me passing without the people who mean the most to me in this life knowing how I felt about them was unimaginable . . . and I wanted to tell them all how I felt . . . and now, not tomorrow . . . or in some unimaginable time in the future. Life became more precious to me than it had ever been . . . and I learned a huge lesson.

Each moment is a golden moment to me now. I take nothing for granted . . . not my feelings, not my experiences, not my family, nor my friends, nor any of the other blessings I so enjoy in my life . . . NOW.

Life is far too short not to be P-R-E-S-E-N-T!!



"The only way to live is to accept each minute as an unrepeatable miracle, which is exactly what it is . . . a miracle and unrepeatable."
~Margaret Storm Jameson

Follow the promptings of your heart now. Say all the things you want to say now. Do and experience all that you want to experience now. Reach out now. Forgive now. Live life not in fear, but in expectancy. In short . . . LIVE . . . now, and take each moment for the gift that they are.



Oh, but we did enjoy the film yesterday! (The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel, for the aging and the beautiful) It was just fabulous! We laughed, we cried and we felt everything in between. It was just wonderful. I don't think Todd was so sure when we went that it was going to be a film for him . . . but he thoroughly enjoyed it as did I. I hope you'll go and see it if you can.

Happy Wednesday everyone. Hope your day is as special as you are. Remember . . . you are loved beyond measure.



Cooking in The English Kitchen today, Cherry Bakewell Breakfast Oats.

6 comments:

Sybil said...

As always wise words Marie,,,I hope that you never forget the words in your last sentance either !!
Glad you enjoyed the film. I think I will try to find a way of seeing it..parking anywhere near the cinema in Bath is difficult..if only I were brave enough to drive in Bristol it would be ok...I am such a wimp !
HAve another lovely day. Mary and I are off to the theatre The Yellow Brick Road today...Mary's particular choice..
Love Sybil xx

Tracey Steele said...

Excellent words, Marie. I was only speaking about this the other day with a friend. I was telling him about a song by Canadian singer, Dave Carroll, entitled Now.

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

They say that it takes something very earth shaking sometimes to wake us up and for me that moment was when my husband passed away from a sudden heart attack. We do have live in the present moment and make the most of each day we are given. I certainly was taught that big lesson in a big way. Your bowl of oats you have pictured there today looks like a work of art. Hope your Wednesday is a wonderful one!

Aileen said...

Your words so true Marie...we have always tried to live a full and active life.
But...
Since my Cancer diagnosis, I'm doing just that......and doing things I really want to do, and making the most of each day!

Aileen...X

laurie said...

what a beautiful post Marie, i'm so sorry you went through such a fearful time, thank goodness all turned out well.You are a very wise woman and i'm proud to call you friend.
lovely oats too!

Neesie said...

What a moving, thought provoking post Marie.
You must have had such an emotional journey during that time. I'm so happy that you can relax and enjoy life now.
(I wonder if you actually posted your letters to let everyone know just how you felt?)
I think it's a great lesson for us all to learn to rethink and not let time slip by.
Thank you so much xoxo